Self-Acceptance Quiz · Section 2 of 5

Mistakes and Repair

Consider the past month. Choose how often each statement was available in practice.

1940s illustration of a man reflecting while repairing a household item

Mistakes and Repair

“I am as I am and I am acceptable to myself under all circumstances. That is not debatable. It is my bottom line.”

Think about the past month. Select what you could practice, especially on difficult days. There are no right or wrong answers. Your answers stay in this browser.

0 Rarely or never1 Occasionally2 Sometimes3 Often4 Almost always

Skip any question that does not fit your experience.

Acceptance during mistakes and repair

Hold your bottom line while taking responsibility for what you have done.

7. I can take responsibility for harm I caused without withdrawing acceptance from myself.

For example: I speak sharply, apologize, ask about the impact, and make a plan to respond differently.

8. I can accept a consequence without interpreting it as proof that I am an unacceptable person.

For example: I receive a late fee for missing a bill and address it rather than treating the fee as a rating of me.

9. I can ask for help after making a mistake without feeling that I must earn the right to ask.

For example: I misread a form and request clarification instead of hiding because I feel defective.

10. I can correct an error even when no one offers reassurance first.

For example: I discover an inaccurate statement I made and correct it before anyone praises my honesty.

11. I can forgive myself for an error while continuing to make amends.

For example: I apologize for breaking a promise and keep the new commitment even after I stop attacking myself.

12. I can distinguish “I wish I had acted differently” from “I should not exist as I am.”

For example: I regret missing a friend's event and arrange time to reconnect without rejecting my whole self.

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