Your Results

How this assessment is examined

1. Your answers are grouped into four commitments: relinquishing control (1–8), accepting the person (9–15), resisting judgment and comparison (16–22), and protecting dignity and safety (23–30).
2. Within each group, the selected 0–4 values are added. The sum is divided by 4 × the number of answered questions and multiplied by 100. A skipped item is excluded, never treated as zero. A domain with fewer than half its questions answered is left unscored.
3. Broad reading ranges are 75–100% (usually available), 50–74% (less reliable under strain), 25–49% (frequent friction worth exploring), and 0–24% (difficult to access right now). These are editorial reflection ranges, not validated clinical cutoffs.
4. The results highlight the lowest scorable commitment and show an explanation for every item you marked 0 or 1. A high total cannot erase a missing commitment or a safety concern. Scores describe only your responses; they do not establish a partner’s intentions or behavior.

This is an original educational exercise based on REBT thinking, acceptance, and autonomy support. It is not a validated assessment, diagnosis, or a test of whether a relationship should continue (American Psychological Association, n.d.; Ellis, n.d.; Knee et al., 2005).

After looking at your results

Choose one difficult moment. A: What happened that you could observe? B: What did you tell yourself it meant? C: What did you feel and do? Then ask what else may be true, what you can manage yourself, and which request or boundary you can state clearly.